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What (pregnant) Women (on bedrest) Want - January 16, 2005

I've been given many offers of help while on bed rest, and they all warm my soul. The offers range from the specific ("can I pick you up some Burgerville?") to the broad ("is there anything you need?"). I've had a hard time responding, because it's hard to figure out what, exactly, do I need? What do women on bed rest really want?

After mulling over things for a week, and being stuck a couple of times wanting stuff I didn't have (but it was a little last-minute to ask), I've come up with a list of things that I, and most pregnant women with kids who are put on bed rest, would love. Maybe next time you have a friend, wife, partner, daughter or colleague who's forced to stay abed for weeks or months of her life, you'll have some ideas of specific things to offer - or even, just give.

I'm lucky, most of the items on my list are being done for me, especially since I'm bedridden without a husband in town. And now that I know what I need, it's easier to respond if someone offers help. And thanks to everyone who's offered or given help, support, or just kind emails - they've made me feel loved and safe in a lonely, frightening time.